Essential Factors for
Understanding What Life Is
Life is all about relationships: our relationship with God, parents, family members, fellow employees, friends, neighbors, and all those whom we meet. If our relationships are based on genuine love, we will have a happy and fruitful life. If they are based on selfish motives or even phileo love, we will have a life of grief, sorrow, sickness, and early death.
Defining True Success
It is fulfilling the purposes for which God created us: being a person of excellent character qualities, a wise financial producer, a powerful proclaimer of truth, a loving marriage partner, and an effective parent.
Identifying Root Causes
Because of involuntary negative reactions from our reins (“gut brain”) to difficult situations of daily life, these unwise reactions produce the stresses of anger, guilt, lust, bitterness, greed, fear and envy.
Understanding Why We Keep Failing
We may decide in our mind to do what is right, but our reins are connected to a different nervous system and overrule our mind and physical and behavioral responses.
1. Delight in Daily Rhemas
A “Rhema” is a passage of Scripture which the Holy Spirit enlightens our spiritual eyes of understanding to see. He then gives us the power of His grace to apply it to our lives (Ephesians 1:17-19). Jesus declared, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word [Rhema] that proceedeth out of the mouth of God
” (Matthew 4:4). Because David delighted in God’s Law and meditated on it day and night, God made him to prosper in whatever he did (Psalm 1:2-3).
2. Quote Rhemas every night.
As soon as you put your head on the pillow, begin quoting your Rhema to God as your personal prayer. This blocks out wrong thoughts and opens the way for cleansing your reins. Then you’ll experience “night watches.” David said, “I will bless the Lord who hath given me counsel; my reins also instruct me in the night seasons” (Psalm 16:7). The instruction will involve insights in Scripture, solutions to problems, creative ideas and direction in life. This leads to total success.
3. Embrace Christ’s Commands.
Jesus gave 49 basic commands on how we can demonstrate genuine love. These are universal and non-optional if we want to experience true success and genuine love. They transcend all nationalities, cultures, religions and political systems. They also reveal Christ and His love. Jesus stated, “He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them he it is that loveth me; and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him” (John 14:21).
4. Expand Your Prayer List.
Paul’s first priority for all believers is to pray for all people (I Timothy 2:1-6). The larger our prayer list, the larger our heart will become (2 Corinthians 6:11-12). The more people for whom we pray, by name, every day, the more we will be able to demonstrate Christ’s love and build relationships that will provide opportunities for discipleship.
5. Be Accountable to Friends.
These disciplines are guaranteed by God to result in genuine love and total success (Joshua 1:8; Psalm 1:2-3; 119:97-99). The problem is not with God’s guarantee; the problem is in our ability to maintain these disciplines. The most effective way to be consistent is to ask two or three friends to keep you accountable. Scripture tells us to “exhort one another daily” (Hebrews 3:13).